Why is it that innocence dissipates as people grow older? I cannot tell you how often I witness this… where relationships are tainted… they’re full of comparisons, expectations, demands, etc. Every GLBTQ (queer) event I go to everyone has “been” with everyone and everyone is talking dirty… I hate it. I honestly wonder if the innocence exists anymore, anywhere?
I dream of a love where it is like brand new… where, yes, we’ve had past lovers, but those relationships are no longer baggage for us — where the ego has been removed and exists something spiritual — where comparisons are non-existent and we are just in the moment, together, fully surrendered. I know I am not “dreaming.” I know this is possible because I am this way… in that I have retained the innocence…
Perhaps I am being vague… It’s hard to describe, and I may not be able to until I have been out more and experienced more, yet being out more just seeks to disappoint me as I witness more of it. I do not even relate to the gay community. Not here anyway… much less in Indianapolis, the closest city to where I grew up, etc. I think I am a different kind of “gay” person. I don’t have that crude rawness. I am not into joking about how many bitches I’ve “banged,” strip clubs I’ve gone to (none by the way), etc.
The “innocence” I am describing is more than just this… I cannot articulate it at the moment. The best advice I can give is to google “Tarot card 17 the Star” — that is my card. Here is a description of it:
Star – Tarot Card Meaning:
The star represents the confidence of youth. The young girl is innocent in life, full of hope and inspiration. She is in anticipation of what will be. Want to find (or regain) a sense of meaning, inspiration, or purpose to your life and hope your future will be better than your past. It’s the call of destiny that motivates you or compels you to go on. Your desire is NOT in vain, and that which you are yearning for will ultimately find fulfilment.
Courage, hope, and inspiration are in your life. Great love will be given and received. Wisdom, spiritual enlightenment, progress toward goals and knowing what these goals are.
Basically it’s about pureness… renewal… innocence… looking at things with an open-ended curiosity and freshness. I long to have this connection with someone… and I must say that it’s rare. ie, selflessness, honesty… truth. Revealingness. Vulnerability. Willingness — These are things I would die for… to have. I often speak in my poems of missing the “life” I never had. “Too many years wasted” — it’s a shame. My [trust] has been broken, and I need to surrender to something — perhaps spirit? My tendency is to surrender to another and then I am devastated.
Trust is rare and is a precious gift… it should not be underestimated. I want to meet other beautiful, innocent souls like myself — people who care, people who are genuine. I miss that freedom. My ex Jen, despite all of our troubles and ups and downs with her alcohol issues, had this innocence I speak of… it was young and pure… a natural curiosity about the world and an untainted body. We shared a connection that no one could take away or defy. When she was not drinking and we were “connected” it was there. I could feel her. She was open, open to learning and experiencing, to life.
Erin is closed off. I am now closed off. I try to open up, but inside I feel like a shriveled up grape. The spark, the inspirational — all has died. I don’t write as much anymore, I don’t do photography… or make art like I used to, or listen to music the way I used to… I don’t even go to concerts. I don’t enjoy parks. I am depressed and lonely. I am disconnected from my, the spiritual source — the very thing that feeds and nourishes a soul/spirit.
I will end with saying, there isn’t any truth in a lie. Must we die twice before we’re officially dead? And only then can we be resurrected, “born again?” Faith, my card — The Star. May she rebirth…