Emily’s formula: Honesty + Respect + Communication + Dependability + Commitment = TRUST.
Once trust is established, “I love you” can be warranted, but why on earth would you say “I love you” to someone you don’t yet trust unless you’re trying to make the relationship secure?
Note: ‘Security’ is NOT based off desires and expectations! — but rather, on an establishment (foundation) of TRUST.
Confused? Saying “But…” RE-READ this. Let it sink in until you get it!
Simply put: Saying “I love you” does not make the relationship “secure.”
“Is my relationship really secure,” you may be wondering? Ask yourself if you have established the above — 5 principles/conditions (“Standards”). If you are uncertain about what they mean, then define them for yourself, do some research, or join in on this discussion! ♥